As the life gets longer, women live longer than men. How can they learn to be happy even if they live alone before the day of their own life arrives? The Ministry of Interior recently announced the "107-year Simple Life Table". The average...
As the life gets longer, women live longer than men. How can they learn to be happy even if they live alone before the day of their own life arrives?
The Ministry of Interior recently announced the "107-year Simple Life Table". The average life expectancy of a Chinese in 107 years is 80.69 years, an increase of 0.3 years from 106 years, and a new high. In terms of gender, the average life expectancy of men in 107 was 77.55 years, an increase of 0.26 years from the previous year; the average life expectancy of women was 84.05 years, an increase of 0.35 years.
With the improvement of medical standards, the prevalence of sports atmosphere, and food safety awareness and other factors, the average life of Chinese people has shown an upward trend, and for a long time, women have been longer than men. Judging from the latest data, women live 6.5 years more than men on average.
is affected by social changes such as hypertrophy and low birth rate. Many women must face the situation of living alone when they are old. If you want to live a happy life, you must have the ability to face "isolation". The problem is, how to resolve the orphanage?
People are originally lonely, and one person can be happy!
When accepting the interview, Lin Jingjun, a consultant psychologist, said that aging does not happen overnight, but a process, to a certain extent, even a "lost process". If you want to be good in your old age, you must start preparing in middle age!
First of all, you must accept the fact that you are aging. After accepting it, you can open your heart to learn the response methods, and even if you grow older, you can still face it.
From the perspective of nature, everyone is independent, and people are originally lonely. For example, when facing death, no one can replace us, and everyone can only face it alone. This is an orphan.
In daily life, many people are afraid of being alone, relying on work and maintaining relationships to make themselves not alone, but these are all dependencies on others and external environments. Since human nature is lonely, learning to be with oneself and being able to enjoy the wealth of life by yourself is the real one not alone!
Lin Jingjun suggested that when middle age, he had to start "one's practice". He would not feel alone or difficult to walk, read, drink coffee, or watch movies. Instead, he would enjoy it. This is to rely on his own strength not alone, he could accompany himself by himself, and he had the ability to live happily.
It is also very happy to be alone!
The specific approach is to deliberately feel the "one person" every time, and deliberately arrange time to practice, such as giving out 1 to 2 hours of individual activities every week. If you really don’t have time, you can also use the commuting time after get off work, and you can carefully review the feeling of “At this moment, I am a person” during the process. The feeling of looking at people and things outside will begin to be different, which is quite wonderful.
Practice several times more and you will gradually develop a person's fun, be alone, and not alone!
Of course, if you want to create a healthy and happy mature life, it is still very important to make more friends, but Lin Jingjun reminds that when you are in the crowd, you will not be alone if you don’t see it. Sometimes, the feeling of loneliness may even be stronger.
Moreover, when we are with others, we will have expectations for others, such as expecting the people around us to chat with us and react to what we say. As long as the other party does not follow the way we expect, a strong sense of loss will come.
After learning, you will find that we are not alone, because we always have a "self" to accompany us, and even without the company of others, we can still be satisfied.
Therefore, the following two things should be prepared early, and will start from middle age at the latest, so that old age can be very happy.
1. Practice a person and feel the prosperity of your life
2. Cultivate your interest and enjoy a person's happiness
Both physically and mentally healthy, and a mature life is beautiful!
The unprecedented long-term phenomenon of human beings is an advancement in the history of human development. If you have a good quality of life, long-term poverty will be a good thing, but if your health is not ideal, long-term poverty will become a torture.
As life prolongs, the people are paying more and more attention to nurturing, but they generally focus on physical health, ignoring psychological health, especially the ability to face orphans.
The so-called "health" should include physical and mental health. In addition to being strong in the body, only by being rich in spirit and being independent in spirit can we achieve true happiness and make aging no longer terrible, but rather "old" with great hope!
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